i finally got around to this, and realized the currently defaulted setting is what is causing this to happen. I just tested this and set a user's Journal settings to allow friends to comment, and the email link was fine, allowing me to add comments directly. This is a HUGE usability issue

I have only 100 or so users at present but surely don't want to edit each. Will, can you tell me exactly where this setting is within the data model? I will persuse it myself of course, but if you know, and are here, if you let me know, i can sql it all to be more user-friendly.
*May i politely suggest this out-of-the-box default be altered to allow friends to comment on journal entries? This is how fb does it and my folks are expecting it .. many thanks! drew..